Want to tell you all a little story about words because at the end of the day words are one of the few things that cannot be taken away from us. You take away phones and every other method of communication we have, we still have words.
That being said, there are some words that it’s not in good taste to say around certain people. You wouldn’t go off on a swearing fit in front of your grandmother or you wouldn’t say some of the things in front of your pastor that you would say in front of your friends that you have known for thirty years watching the game or something like that.
The point is, like any other tool there are times and places for words to be used like you might use a rake or a shovel. You wouldn’t use a rake to paint a fence with, but if someone decides to get rid of rakes period, then what are you going to rake the leaves with?
Now, there are some people that want to get rid of certain words or to tell people not to use certain words because they don’t like the way that people use them. Well, I hate to tell some people this but some folks use shovels to hit people over the head with. Does not mean for a second I should stop one if I need to dig a hole for a fence.
A leading psychiatrist has identified six words people should not use, because they are “accompanied by feelings of moral judgment, hatred and utter rejection,” Business Insider revealed Monday.
In 1972, comedian George Carlin delivered a monologue titled “Seven Words You Can Never Say on Television” that rocketed him to celebrity, but the self-censorship proposed for the “six hurtful words you should stop using” have nothing to do with Carlin’s naughty list.
They are rather “harmful, negative labels to describe ourselves and others,” according to psychiatrist Grant Hilary Brenner, and they come from “toxic places.”
“Words like selfish, stupid, spoiled, and lazy” can be more damaging than we realize, the article warns.
“These are dividing words, misunderstanding concepts, rather than language which joins and deepens mutuality and self-relationship,” Brenner asserts, and their use constitutes “an act of linguistic violence.”
The word “lazy,” for instance, “suggests there’s something fundamentally wrong with you if you can’t work hard,” Brenner writes, while “the answer may simply be to give yourself smaller goals.”