Love can take many different forms. For each person who hears the term “love,” it can mean something different. Love may be viewed by some as the most fundamental emotion in the universe, the most horrible emotion that has ever broken their heart, or even occasionally as a nonexistent emotion that they are unable to comprehend.
Love is the motivating force behind relationships, parenthood, and family, as well as a vocation or talent. It is at the center of human existence. Whatever the case, love takes many various forms because of the way people are wired.
However, in New Jersey, a woman who fell in love with her father in an unusual way intends to wed him and perhaps have a few children together!
According to The Cut, “50% of reunions between siblings, or parents and offspring, separated at birth,” result in GSA — a much higher proportion than one might expect, especially given the paucity of research on these relationships. Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) is a term used to describe intense, almost obsessive romantic and sexual feelings that estranged relatives often feel for each other upon reunion.
Science of Us notes that the most under-reported of all GSA relationships is between biological fathers and daughters, which are often scrutinized for power dynamics similar to many abusive relationships. So, naturally, the blog went ahead and found a young woman who is “dating her dad” to hear her side of things.
An 18-year-old “from the Great Lakes region” who has been dating her father seriously for two years was interviewed by Science of Us. The couple, who are engaged to be married, were separated for 12 years before they were reunited; the lady says that when they first met when she was 16 and they were instantly attracted to one another.
“It was so weird and confusing. I was seeing my dad for the first time in forever but it was also like, He’s so good-looking! And then I was like, What the hell are you thinking? What is wrong with you? I saw him as my dad but then also part of me was like, I’m meeting this guy who I have been talking to over the internet and really connecting with and I find him attractive,” the teen said.
The two began a sexual relationship within the first few days they were together:
The teen added, “We stopped and said that we didn’t know what was going on but admitted that we had strong feelings for each other. We discussed whether it was wrong and then we kissed. And then we made out, and then we made love for the first time. That was when I lost my virginity.”
The woman goes on to describe moving in with her father and his ex-partner (who is now their roommate), and how she must hide the relationship from her mother, who she says has not yet picked up on the fact that she and her dad are dating.
As sensational as the whole interview might seem (and, admittedly, as it is), it actually forces one to do some rigorous double-checking of one’s own beliefs.