A mom from Oklahoma viral photo changes the look of co-parenting.
Hayley Booth posted on Facebook addressing how she co-parents her daughter with her ex-husband, his wife, and her current husband.
“My answer is always the same — We just love our daughter,” she writes. “We all love her, and nothing will ever change that. No child deserves to be tossed around back and forth, used as a bargaining chip, or to be put in the middle of any adult drama. She didn’t choose to be born, and she certainly never chose for her parents to get divorced.”
Booth posted a heartwarming picture of her and her daughter’s “bonus mommy” walking their kid on her first day of school. She also shared how they talk having a second mommy.
“My daughter calls her bonus mommy ‘Mommy.…’ And you know what? That’s OK, because that’s what she is to her, she is her mommy. She is there for her always, she takes care of her, she plays with her, she teaches her life lessons and how she should behave, she gives her hugs and kisses goodnight, she does everything any mother would do. But most of all she loves her like she is her own. It takes a very special woman to take a child that they didn’t give birth to, under their wing and become their mother.”
Booth realizes that she’s pretty open-minded when it comes to having her child call another woman Mummy, but she thinks that being overly territorial isn’t going to make things any better.
“You’re being selfish,” she said. “If you are lucky enough for your ex to have a woman who loves YOUR child or children like their own, and one who helps raise them and shape them, why would you not allow them to call a woman they love mummy?”
Booth also acknowledged the importance of putting the drama aside when it comes to parenting.
“Sometimes you just have to put the petty little things aside, to raise your child to be the amazing human being they are meant to be,” she said. “My daughter isn’t the only one who loves her bonus mummy, I love her too. She’s become one of my best friends and I rely on her for many things. She is one of the strongest people I know, and I am thankful for her everyday.”